Mental Health Thursday

I whole heartedly welcome everyone to this blog. Today, we are going to talk about – Mental Health. I never do this on my blog but I felt that this post is so important and I want people to read it as a whole picture rather than just the abstracts of this through the Instagram captions. This post is a little heavy for me and I am nervous, have no clue how this is going to perform. But let’s just go ahead.

Before I begin writing this, I just want to let you know that I am not going to sugar-coat therapy as my experience or my trauma.

So here it goes, last year, in the last few days of October I was forced (by myself) to try out therapy because the pain got too much to bear. It was to the point that I had to either isolate myself or lie about how I genuinely felt. I was at a stage where I was very hopeless regarding everything in my life. From closing my social media accounts to deleting screenshots of chats that had no values to add in my life but rather became a source of constant pain & humiliation. I had to stop for a while, sit with the pain as it went deeper and deeper till that one day when I found myself in therapy.

Let me tell you this, Therapy is not something to be ashamed of. I am not writing this post to gain anything but to give that someone who's hurting right now the knowledge that they are not alone in their pain.

Therapy can be too intense sometimes. It's like acknowledging where life tore you apart, where things actually went wrong, what part did you play in all that. It is the bare truth that comes forward in therapy. I'll also say that the humiliation of the present was not the only thing I was going through at that moment, it was infact years of humiliation that I had supressed in my memory. I didn't even realise that the small traumatic memories that I have from years ago were actually ingrained in my mind for a reason. The feelings from those memories were never acknowledged rather pushed back and buried deep under my psyche and it was time for me to acknowledge the presence of my demons.

The fact in therapy that I realized was- I knew so much about my trauma from years ago and that surprised my therapist. She was like- "you have perception for your problems." But what she doesn't know is that, I had to sit with that trauma for years, I overturned and upturned it inside my head multiple times, I had enough time to see both sides of the coin and this is why I understood it better. I know where I felt embarrassed and humiliated. I just don't know how to get over that.

The purpose of this post is to normalise therapy, normalise talking about your trauma and normalise to do it in a way where you do not overshadow someone else's story, do not make their struggles feel less than yours. Everyone has been through something or the other and there is no such thing as "My trauma is greater than you." NO. Trauma is Trauma. Talk. Listen. Without comparing your traumas and your life with the others. You are equally worthy of love and acceptance as much as someone else is. And just in case you think comparison in traumas is not a real thing then, here is a real life example for you-

Trust me when I say I had been through a situation during the same month last year, where some other people (who did not belong to me or my friend circle) had the audacity to tell me that my trauma is nothing in front of theirs. And that led me down to another road of humiliation. But the rational part of me said- "No! Stop this right now. Are you asking for validation of YOUR trauma from someone else? Do you believe them more than YOURSELF? You felt hurt and it's okay to be hurt. You need to stop with the overthinking."

If something is hurting you and causing you pain then IT is hurting you and causing you pain. Stop invalidating people's struggles just because you think you have greater struggles than them. And stop asking for validations of your trauma from someone else, trust me some people never learn. Yes, your struggles are your struggles and someone else's struggles are theirs. Both can co-exist. We all deserve love & kindness in equal amounts.

To all my people who go to therapy or have a bad mental health day, I just want you to know that this internet friend goes through the same thing and has equally valid traumas as you. Your trauma doesn't make you any less but more of a human.

Here I lend you all my strength and all my love to help you keep fighting and keep going through life. I love you! ❤

P.S.A- Feel free to share the link of this blog with your friends. You never know when someone's struggling no matter how close you are to them.

XoXo,
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